Hi Girls,
So most of my work is Bridal. I love that I get to spend the morning with so many people surrounding by excitement and happiness its such a pleasure. Along the way I’ve seen a lot and gained a few tips that might help some brides to be.
Preperation :
This isn’t just for your skin and your body! Most women once they are engaged will go mad organising, pricing, browsing wedding sites etc. That’s great but I know from experience it can get a little overwhelming can’t it? Your best friend will be your “List” . First off write everything that pops into your head down on that list.
Venue, Date, Flowers, Bridal Party, Dress, Rings, Bridesmaid, Hen party, Honeymoon etc.
Its just a list to get you brainstorming, let’s say to get you started. Now out of that list you start with your most important, which I reckon is the date! Speak to your partner and come up with a date, call any venues your are interested in and ask them if this date is free, there is no point calling in to view a venue and then to be told your date is actually booked out already.
Once the date is booked you can start on all the others. A lot of people use social media to find their ideal suppliers, this is great but I cannot stress enough that you should pick up the phone or visit your suppliers, messages through facebook are great to start but you need to establish a rapport with your supplier, your trusting them to come up trumps on the biggest day of your life.
A lot of suppliers request deposits to hold your date, make sure that you have a paper trail to follow, if your paying a deposit, get receipts and keep note of the total amount and how much you have paid, another good idea is to find out whether they want payment before or on the day, if its on the day, you will want to have each suppliers payment in envelopes with their names and amount clearly marked on it. I had an instance once where I was paid on the day for completing bridal party makeup and the amount was clearly marked on the envelope when I opened it, it was short €100! It was so embarrassing for both myself and the bride, it transpires her dad took money out to pay a supplier and forgot to put it back, so definitely seal those envelopes once the correct amount is inside!
Keep in touch :
Don’t be afraid after booking a supplier to keep in touch, sometimes you might book a supplier a year or two before the big day, there is no harm in keeping in touch with them, if you have any questions or ideas etc. The majority of us are delighted to hear from you and to help in anyway we can.
Don’t take on too much:
I have seen brides work themselves into the ground, be it from making fairy light backdrops to deciding to do their bridal parties makeup themselves. Ladies sometimes it can become too much, and whilst you might relish the idea of making your own 4 tiered cake, let me tell you once the week before the wedding comes, it is all systems go. So please please be sure that you are not taking on too much. You want to enjoy the day and also the build up to it.
The Beauty side:
Now I know we all try and keep our skin as well as we can in the run up to the big day but no matter how much you look after it, or drink 4 litres of water a day, if your stressed your skin will show it.
If you are thinking of getting a spray tan then I recommend you get on for your makeup trial. I have had so many brides that haven’t realised or even thought of it and come to me in their natural skin tone and then say “Oh I will be a lot darker on the day” meaning that your finished look is going to look a lot different when you are 2 or 3 shades darker on your big day, so its always advisable to get your tan trial a day or two before your make up trial.
Lashes: Some ladies aren’t sure if they will want false lashes on the day, a trial is the perfect time to try them out, you can go home and spend the day and evening with these on and decide if you would like them on your big day. Also if you are thinking of getting semi perm faux minx lashes, get these for your trial or hen, I have had some brides who having got them done just days before their wedding, with clumps of them missing, luck job I was able to fill them in, just a note to find a reputable lash extensionist and preferably try them out before your big day.
On the Day Itself:
Ok so the day has arrived, obviously it would be great if you could get the best nights sleep the night before, but come on now, who actually sleeps great before their wedding, I didn’t.
The only good thing is that you literally run on adrenaline no matter how tired you are, you’ve waited for this day all your life so a lack of sleep aint gonna ruin it for you now! A handy thing I saw a bride with was some glucose sweets, by Lucozade. She said they perked her energy up a bit after being up half the night with a small toddler and by god was she zipping around that morning.
Don’t skip breakfast! The last thing you might want is food when your feeling nervous and excited, so instead of a big greasy fry, have some croissants or scones in. You need a bit of fuel in you for the long day ahead.
Don’t stress about time. Your suppliers are well used to handling this. Once they have your ceremony times and details of bridal party etc they will look after this for you. Your job is to relax, your makeup artist and hairdresser will schedule your time for you that morning, they know what they are doing, so just go with the flow.
Delegate – Don’t expect people to know what to do, they will want to help but with the house full and people going back and forth it can be easy for things to get lost in translation. If you have small kids, ask someone specifically to keep an eye on them. Ask someone else if they will help out with the breakfast etc. Genuinely people love to help out.
Lastly, try and remember there are no rules, this is your big day, you’ve spent time and money on it and it goes in a blink of an eye. Don’t cry if the florist has forgotten the page boys corsage, no one will notice it! Any little mishaps that happen can be dealt with after the big day, you can of course contact any suppliers if you feel they didn’t deliver and come to some sort of arrangement, enjoy your day as the hours go by so quickly.
And remember the real reason why you’ve worked so hard to pull all this together, which is one I think people loose sight of in amidst the madness. Your marrying the love of your life, you want to enjoy the day but remember so many others are looking forward to witnessing your marriage also. Enjoy every minute of it.
Stacey x